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Re: Do You Have a Friend Who is a Loser? Get Rid of Em!

AJ Kumar — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:34:54 -0000

heartless advice for teenage power-wannabees? Funny enough, it's stuff I learned from seasoned old people who motivate and inspire young people.

Re: Do You Have a Friend Who is a Loser? Get Rid of Em!

AJ Kumar — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:32:26 -0000

Yes success does come in many forms... read the entire article and you'll see that I covered the idea of success.

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AJ Kumar — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:31:34 -0000

"I know you are but what am I...' is how your comment came accross. Chill, I never called you a loser.

Next time, read the entire blog before you make comments like the one you made. "Maybe there are people who are better than you and are giving and help people out?"

I do indeed talk about people who help others...

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AJ Kumar — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:27:28 -0000

"Now if you said relying on people with 0 motivation is bad I'd agree"... that is what I'm saying... I never said abandon anyone. if someone just doesn't care anymore, why would you waste your time. They need to figure it out themselves at that point.

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Jack — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 16:14:33 -0000

That sounds incredibly naive to me. So you think that I should ditch friends if they're going through a rough time? I see what your getting at but your points on what makes a loser were completely stupid and naive.

I've been through phases of having no job etc. we all have phases we're all human. My friends have been through phases like that. Yet you believe its better to turn away abandon them and look for succesfull friends. Dude.. you're completely fucking wrong. I stuck with many of my mates and helped them through rough patches now they're of working, going to university and getting engaged. If all their friend abandoned them as a loser they'd probably be nowhere right now.

Oh the no money part is completely stupid. I don't know how high in the clouds you've been but if youb check things in the real world out its pretty easy to have a job and yet be low on money. I work my ass of but end up with very little money for myself because it goes on rent. I suppose I'm a loser then? I suppose because of the reccesion most of us are instant losers?

Grow up. To grow properly you have to go through hard times. I didn't have things to me on a plate I had to work for it as did many of my friends.

Now if you said relying on people with 0 motivation is bad I'd agree. What you wrote however just comes of as fuck the unfortunate lets go suck cocks of the fortunate and beg for leftovers. Sorry man, I'm not a loser or a beggar and I'm not someone who abandons his friends through hard times I'm me and I'm proud of it and you obviously have a lot to learn in life if you think you can catagorise people whom you don't know as losers.

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Philhilton01 — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:24:33 -0000

I know a lot of people are gonna disagree with this post...oh well. There are some good counterarguements like the fact that life is not fair and that you may mean well but sometimes things just don't work out. Bad things happen to good people TOO OFTEN. Some people r out there trying, but with this crappy economy, corrupt politicians, tyranical coporations, and broken families that can be difficult for LOTS of people who honestly do try.

Still, I have 2 agree with your post 4 the most part. If u want to be successful, u must cut out the cancer in your life. Usually that is lazy ass people who are vampires that just want your money. They don't produce anything and they are so lazy they would make a bum look like a hard worker. I bet a third of the people getting money from their state government in food stamps or unemployment fit into that category....trust me some losers are in my pathetic family.

So I see ehat you are saying, if u want to be successful stay away from the losers like single moms, drug addicts, unemployment and food stamp vampires(not people who have been laid off, but those who are too lazy to work), bums, alcoholics, and master manipulators as well as abusive people. Most people are a WASTE OF TIME!

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Philhilton01 — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:13:36 -0000

hey!

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marathonrunner — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:34:08 -0000

I would like to say this that those HUMAN BEINGS you call losers are struggling in life with many different issues maybe a person who you label loser is hurting so much is depressed etc. Life is hard and someone of us in life get dealt some rotten tomatoes. I have a friend who fits this discription no job , does drugs etc instead of giving up on her like everyone else did in her life. I saved it. I gave her the encouragment she never had from anyone to move on with her life. I moved away and every now and then I hear from her. When she called and said thank you for saving her life. I said your welcome. I dont believe in losers I believe that people need love, respect and encouragement. I know for a fact that people who are on drugs or who drink too much they are just covering up pain that we all feel in life. You might even deal with pain by thinking your winner why? because doesnt it make you feel good to be soooo successful yes sure it does but in the end in your heart what have you done to help another human out.

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YZEN — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 04:20:33 -0000

You sound like an arrogant piece of shit. You're giving atheists a horrible name. Stop trying to seem better than others based on religious preference.

As for your cutting people out of your life, I don't care. I just want everyone to be happy. If you don't like how someone lives, let them worry about it- it's their life not yours.

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horrez — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 18:56:28 -0000

I feel that just because a person does not meet up to anothers expectations ,does not make them a loser and to say this is totally wrong and a very ignorant frame of mind and thinking..There are a lot of people that don't have jobs but look and look and look and are not successful and yet have some of the biggest goals and dreams,but to assume that they are losers proves that you are the biggest loser.Being a loser is just a frame of mind set and you should not judge others based on expectations,standards,goals or on account of what someone does,has or is...You never know where some people have been in life,or how they got to where they are,so why try to judge them in accordance to beliefs that are meaningless.I will admit that some people are lazy,but why they give up remains their own personal reason and i know by fact that there is noone on the face of this earth that just gives up and wants to be unsuccessful.So what ever the case may be,if you feel that some people are just losers just because of the signs above then you have already lost your heart,because you speak ignorance and this to me is a person that is a loser.. Get your head out of your butts and grow up and stop judging others and definning who and what makes a person without knowing why.

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Lian — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 19:06:43 -0000

Excellent post. I was searching the statistic that talks about how you will make the average income of ten of your closest friends. I found your post instead.. read every word.

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Simoun_sibyllae — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 19:25:26 -0000

Treating the world as if it works for you does not suggest you are special. It suggests you are an asshole.

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Arnost — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 07:19:15 -0000

i started working hard at age of 15 im now 38 and tired of my so called friends that truely are not friends , i agree with ya AJ life is way to short to hang around people going no where . an old man once told me you cant be successful till you hang around successful people now that im older i understand what he ment now after he passed away i found out he was a millionaire he acted just like everyone where im from working class people .

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Steve_1973us — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 21:47:30 -0000

I have a question. How can I get my girlfriends family to realize that her son is a user and doesn't care who he hurts?

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Flarpscaredycat — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 11:45:16 -0000

This is crap and heartless advice for teenage power-wannabees.
Do you know why people go out to work and become involved in daily combat for cash?
So they can aspire to be losers on the weekend.
Do you have a pension?
No?
Then what's the point in you convincing yourself that adopting a beta role and jumping when told to jump is any way to go about shoring up a self esteem that is only a few hours away from spiraling into crisis if it fucks up it's mission to gobble up gold coins and instead tastes real life?
Stick a needle up your ass asshole because you might as well because you're setting yourself up to live like a legal legitimalized junkie.
Stop thinking like an old man you baby.

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Dylan — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 23:25:36 -0000

You can have a full life without a lot of money... a meaningful life... some of our greatest spiritual leaders in the world have lived this way and have taught the value of it. If all you want is to have a bunch of money and a head full of goals that make you feel like you're a genuinely real, important person, then people who don't have money or big self-improvement plans will appear to be losers... But what a sad way to look at life! A win-lose situation... that's how you see it! But it is not that way. That's the way the mind might see life, but life is more than that. You forget about the inner dimension of life, the unquantifiable part of it. Remember this part! There's nothing wrong with goals, but we are NOT OUR GOALS... and not what we own... or who we know. That stuff is fun sometimes and useful sometimes, but that's not what we are inside. Think of your mortality. And yes, do the things that make you happy! If goals make you happy, please,. follow them! But there is no need to say "those people are losers," "these people are winners." We have been taught this ideology of winning and losing at life since near infancy, and it has made us forget ourselves. Try to remember! Why is it so shameful to be a "loser"? Who taught you that shame? Do you teach it to others? Are you afraid of who you would be without that shame, of where you might fall to? What if you let go of that shame and fell? Haven't you always, in a way, wanted to? The ultimate rebellion, the ultimate act of love for yourself. It's about disconnecting from judgement. It's not even trust-- it's just that urge to let go. Let's try it!

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Starsmagicdo — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 07:22:23 -0000

Great post AJ. So true, I understand whatcha mean and what some of below commentators miss to understand. I have a lot of experience with being misunderstood or not understood at all. People call me wierd, crazy and retarded often, because I'm always too honest and open about ''self-improvement'' with everyone. I realized, sadly, most people just can't seem to connect all the dots of life and get stuck somewhere along the way always upholding unfinished point of views and opinions.

I'm done with helping people who just don't understand or don't want to understand. And I don't wanna waste my time with people who can't contribute in any way to my life, even if they are friends I've known all my life. It drags you down so much, and usually it's the pathetic attitude of theirs that undermines your confidence and self-esteem. You actually have to fight the environmental influence so hard to be who you want to be, instead of being who your environment makes you. And somewhere along the way you get accused of being self-centered motherfker. But hey, those are just little people talking.

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Chad — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:09:29 -0000

Im a loser.....this sucks.

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Sweetone100percent — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 16:59:40 -0000

I teach students all the time. One thing I don't teach them is to lose those that aren't doing as well as they (double negatives...gotta love them.)

I teach them, instead, compassion and understanding. I do not teach them to avoid their parents, their friends, or their relatives, because they might 'infect their thoughts'.

No, I teach them, instead, to go after what they dream of doing, but don't put others down when they cross their paths. Instead, remember where they came from, and try to help those they care about, to better themselves, if they can. If not, then understand that not everyone has the tools or the ability, and not everyone has to follow the money God.

Some are perfectly happy just being who they are, and there is nothing wrong with that.

With the majority of the world out of work, right now, your advise does not apply, because it, logically would not make sense. Everyone is affected, even those that surround themselves with positive people; the go-getters.

Instead of putting those in your life into some realm of good and bad, try to take the good with the bad, and don't assume that everyone knows better, for your life. Just think, if you burn that many bridges, when it comes to someone standing by you when you need it, there will be no one there to do so...except those that now think of YOU, as the loser. God puts people in your path for a reason. Don't always assume the reason is negative. Did you ever think it's to make you learn something you knew nothing about, previously? Of course, if all you ever do is see the negative in that person, how could you possibly learn something positive from them. Everyone has something to add to your life, in one way or another, but sometimes, you have to dig deep to find it.

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Cf003233 — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 05:16:41 -0000

i also don't agree with the description of what a loser is. Success comes in many forms. People go through struggles. That's life. Aj kumar doesn't even know what a loser is. That's how much of a loser he is and always will be no matter what he does.

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Cf003233 — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 05:13:33 -0000

this guy is a loser. i'm not a loser and don't treat people who are like that. what a pathetic piece of crap this guy is. the thing is he has it rationalized in his head that people who disagree are. Maybe there are people who are better than you and are giving and help people out? and aren't insecure to the point where having people int heir life who go through struggles doesn't bring them down. Maybe they are stronger than you and not a spineless coward. What's funny is youa re a loser and not strong enough to handle it. Truth.

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Mkcoolzone_ — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 18:51:46 -0000

i like your article bro, i also have losers in my life i need to get rid of

Re: Do You Have a Friend Who is a Loser? Get Rid of Em!

AJ Kumar — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 13:28:02 -0000

First you agree with the points, then you disagree? I'm not saying unemployed=loser. I'm not saying if you're not trying to work your ass off trying to make it even if you're broke you're a loser.

Let me ask you.. if you're friend fit that criteria and you're in the position you're in: trying to get a job, no gf, etc. By being with that friend, you're going to cause your own life to crash. Think about it... it's human nature to become like the people you surround yourself with. If you changed the group of people you're with, you'll have a better shot at making your own life more successful. You'll have a better chance at getting a gf a job, etc.

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AJ Kumar — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 13:23:13 -0000

Well said. Congrats on all your success!

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AJ Kumar — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 13:21:23 -0000

It's controversial, I agree, but there are plenty of people who think the opposite. Sorry you feel that way.